I know you have heard the expression, "stuck between a rock and a hard place." I always wondered what that meant. Where did it originate? So I went online to try and find out. All I found was different peoples definition of what that means to them. In brief the best examples I am found, and I am paraphrasing are, either choice has undesirable consequences.....in between two uncomfortable positions.
Yep I guess you could say that about me right now. You have been there too, right? So what do you do? If either choice is going to be bad, how do you move forward? Take the lesser of two evils, to coin another expression? Or do nothing? It is very difficult to decide.
Mine rock and hard place involves my husband. I am watching him grieve over his daughter, my step daughter. Through her own poor choices she has become very sick and now destitute. It would be easy to help her had she not fallen out of favor with mostly everyone due to her lies and manipulation. The only person that is still helping her is her father, my husband.
My difficult position, my two hard places, is that I don't like what this stress is doing to my husband and our relationship. Her dire situation causes him great agony, turmoil and has stolen all joy from his life. I don't want to seem callus by stopping help, quit enabling, make her be responsible for her self. I try and think how I would react if it were my biological son or daughter. If not for the grace of God it could be mine or even yours, my readers.
So what is the correct thing to do? Leave her alone to fend for herself or get others outside the family to help or keep doing for her? I don't know, so I do nothing. I am frozen, unable to offer nurture and sympathy because simultaneously I'm angry at how it is tearing my husband apart and thus our relationship. Is this speaking to anyone of you, my readers. Are you struggling with a family member who is wayward, addicted, frail and a constant drain of your resources, time and attention?
Lord I give this entire ordeal over to you. I know you have a plan and purpose for all of us. My husband and I have gone the extra mile for our children and do it gladly. But show us when we have done too much. When are we getting in Your way by rescuing and enabling? Come mightily and speak to us. I need your wisdom and guidance. Amen
So on the mountain climb I find myself wedged in a crevice. I am braced with my back against a stone and my legs supporting me on the adjacent rock. I can look up and see a brilliant blue sky. It is not much further. But I have to rest and wait for my strength to recharge. While I am waiting it is a great time to offer praise and thanksgiving to the Lord. In everything we are to give thanks. So even though this portion of the climb is very hard and difficult to figure out how to maneuver, I know God has a plan and I need to hear and then act. Speak Lord for your daughter is listening.
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