I just have to say, I love my husband. When I think of where both of us have come from in our lives including how we met it is amazing. Both of us have weathered some pretty harsh circumstances. I had a difficult childhood and my husband had a more pleasant one. We both met the Lord Jesus in the 70's and have been passionate believers. When my husband found himself single and raising four children it coincided with the same time I was single and raising four children. No one could have told me I would move to Texas, of all places, and meet a man who would change my life in ways only God could have orchestrated.
Now by no means has our marriage of twelve years been smooth and sweet. We have had our storms but at the heart of who we are is the common bond of faith, family and politics. Now I know you are thinking why bring politics into this? Because I am a firm believer that part of being "equally yoked" is having a house that is not divided. It would not do well for us to be on opposite sides. Only creates a source of tension and opens the door for trouble. No thanks! Don't want anymore trouble than what comes in the day to day living.
Also we were very insightful to check each other out before we got married from a financial and cleanliness standpoint. It wasn't enough to tell my soon to be spouse that I was financially sound. Credit checks speak better. He got to see how I keep house and what is important domestically for me. He saw how devoted I was to my family and understood where I placed these loved ones in my life.
Most of all where we stood biblically was most important. We needed a common belief in the Lord and how we would value each others prayer and bible study time including groups we interacted with as a basis for a good marriage.
But I am happy to say we have a great marriage. Always room for improvement but all the qualities are there to build on. We have a commitment to each other and that is not up for discussion.
Lord, thank you for bringing Ken into my life. He was exactly what this 'broken' soul needed at exactly the time I needed him. I know gifts when I get one and he is a gemstone I treasure very much. To me he is everything Christ wants for a husband to be. I am one lucky lady. Amen
So as I reach the base and look toward a long field ahead of me I take a few minutes to give thanks for foundations. The world God spoke into being is what I am enjoying on this hike. Everything builds on one kind of foundation or another. These mountains have solid bedrock as the foundation and they are standing the test of time.
When I look at marriages today and how people move through them instead of in them it grieves my heart. Both Ken and I know how devastating it can be when a spouse chooses to violate the foundation on which you are trying to build something wonderful. All the more reason we value each other more and more.
So my challenge right now is thinking how my story can help others. I guess you gotta want help first. But anyone seeking a real solution can give me a call. But before you call ask yourself these questions:
Are my values, morals, biblical and political stances aligned? Do I bring everything I can to this relationship holding nothing back? Do I truly value the other person enough to let them become all they can be? Am I clean, neat and tidy? Does my speech bring honor to anyone who hears me?
If you have issues in any of these areas the first step may be to get God's perspective. These are just a few things that have helped me. I hope they help you too.
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